By Dr Charles Leyman Kachitsa
The concept of loneliness, basically being alone has had received much attention especially in our modern times. The recent Covid 19 pandemic lockdowns period brought the subject into more prominence and focus. During that period which now perhaps seems a century ago yet it was four / five years ago we had to endure it, people were confined to their household which meant those living alone had no any other human contact. Its positive and negative sides are now well documented and it is an area of on-going research as to its long term impact.
Loneliness can be as a result of circumstances and or natural conditions. Yet in some people it might be self induced and by design. Some people like the privilege that being alone continuously brings and can not in any way dream of a life with more human contact. However, human beings by their creation are social beings which means interaction with other beings is part and parcel of their livelihood.
On another spectrum, loneliness has varied different degrees depending on interpretation and perspectives. To some loneliness in adulthood might mean the absence of a relationship with a spouse, loved opposite sex person, though they might have more contact with other beings through work, community or social gatherings in general. Yet to others it means literally being locked away from other human beings. No matter what the situation, happiness is made when one realises that there is only one truth as the creator intended it to always be. Be happy in this truth!
The quotes this week are a final extraction from a book that according to its author has potential to transform your mind, to attract what you most desire and seize the life-changing opportunities that pass us by every day. I am sure that the few listed quotations from this book below, will enlighten you to one or two life lessons. Read and enjoy:
THE SOURCE by Dr Tara Swart
“In order to manifest your ideal life, therefore, you need to train your brain to devalue any potential losses and filter out the unnecessary warning signs that your limbic brain may send to the front of your mind (the pre-frontal cortex). It’s important to do this to ensure we don’t get caught out by these red flags. ……… visualisation helps you do just that by realising buried negative thoughts.”
“Who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails whilst daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. – Theodore Roosevelt.”
“I prefer to think of presence as a way of life rather than discrete practices. Personally, I consider mindful eating, mindful walking and paying full attention to people as we interact with them to be important as formal mindfulness practices such as yoga or meditation, This everyday presence often get forgotten and I encourage people to make this the focus of their mindfulness practice, rather than obsessing about getting traditional meditation ‘right’. Having said that, a daily practice, even for a few minutes, will make a radical difference to your brain. ……..”
“In your journal, make a list of everything you have ever aspired to. This could include roles like wife or mother / husband or father; qualities like ‘having a voice’ or expressing yourself creatively; or assets like wealth or success in your field. Underline those you have achieved. Look at the words and feel yourself fill up with a sense of achievement of the aspirations you have realised so far. —— There may be some things on your list that you have been aspiring to for so long that you haven’t stopped to acknowledge the fact you already have them. Own them for example, ‘I am a loved and loving step-parent’ or ‘I have built a successful, stable business.’ Alternatively, ensure that you put down achievements that weren’t on your to-do list, but that nevertheless demonstrate your endurance, capability, skills and determination.”
