By Dr Charles Leyman Kachitsa
The period leading to the end of the year is always a fascinating one as dependent on one’s experience on the outgoing year, the mood could vary from extreme excitement to extreme anxiety. As the saying goes, we can not go back to the past to correct any mistakes that were done but we can make better choices from such experiences to make sure we do not fall into the same trap again.
The finality in a year reminds humans about the thing called life that they are living. It reminds us that the time is ticking; every second getting into a minute and the minutes getting on to an hour which then winds up to become one complete day. It is the days that give us the various lengths of months, which then when the months are bundles into twelve as has always been the practice since time immemorial, we get a full year. All the while this process does not stop the sun to be the sun and or the moon to be the moon. Nor does it diminish the bright stars that make people wonder at the craftiness of the creator in making all things to be in place where they belong.
As you prepare to go on to the new year, be rest assured that we will begin at the start again to commence counting up or down depending on your own views, the fresh year of 2026. The promise has always been there and this coming year is no exception as it promises those who can see, new knowledge and understanding of that which has always been there unnoticed. Wishing you a Happy New Year, a Prosperous one full of joy and fulfilment.
The quotes this week are a final extraction from this particular book. The book is about the suspects and strategies for an understanding of the management and nurturing of intimate relationships including marriage. I am sure that the few selected quotations listed below from this book will enlighten you to one or two life lessons. Read and reflect:
DIVERGENT THEORY OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS by Dr Jesse Omoregie
“I recommend the Workplace Approach to be embedded in intimate relationships and marriages. The Workplace Approach to problem solving or attaining goals or targets entails respect and the preservation of dignity. A normal workplace is characterised by collaborative working, team and individual growth and development, fairness, equal opportunities, communication, team and individual commitments, listening aptitude, and more. Organisations and businesses strive to create and maintain positive working environment for members of staff since doing so would optimise productivity and the achievement of projects, goals, or targets.”
“Developing shared interest is key in connecting a couple in a relationship; such perception of connection due to shared interest is usually translated to what is generally referred to as ‘chemistry’ in relationships. In a nutshell, developing adequate shared interest would help the individuals involved to close the gap of divergence and to navigate towards the point of unison. Developing shared interests can become a mechanism for change when divergence is noticeable or as a preventative measure to maintain the point of unison. ….”
“Listening also helps the listener exploit in-depth information that would assist in the understanding of the other person’s perspectives, feelings, and circumstances. Such understanding, when applied adequately may be key in conflict resolution, improving understanding, reducing misconceptions, strengthening the relationship, and enhancing compromise.”
“Because couples are not always aware when divergence begins to ravage their relationships as it begins in a subtle manner, its entrance and sojourn in the relationship tends to elude the individuals in the relationship. Such is the case when at the beginning of divergence, the slight changes may be too small and insignificant that they tend to be negligible. However, as divergence becomes bigger, behaviours, views, and lifestyles that were once negligible becomes salient and frustrating to pone or both individuals in the relationship. Once divergence reaches its climax, individuals in a relationship begin to experience the feelings of bitterness, anger, disappointment, frustration, stress and burnout, anxiety, and sometimes regret.”
