By Dr Charles Leyman Kachitsa
Previously through this column I had provided a good narrative on how the game of football has a lot to teach human beings that can be employed in their daily life. Yesterday attending an event, the speaker used rugby as a game that can be used in transferring it’s tenets to living life positively be in family or any other setting.
The strength and foresight that are exhibited by good players in rugby need to be emulated in navigating life games. Marriage is such one area where strength of character means having a long sustainable relationship. It is a game of resilience and only those with great stamina turn to enjoy its benefits whilst the ones with weak character abandon it regrettably.
Like any other competitive game, rugby requires participants to embrace team spirit. The team players have to coordinate and move forward and backwards as a team. They have to support each other as win they win together and lose, they lose together. In that sense no any one player is superior. More importantly when the game is in motion, players have to adhere to its dictates and rules. There is a lot we can learn from sports in general to shape or lives.
The quotes this week is a final extraction from a book which has deep narratives that when read in full has the potential in providing tips for a balanced life experience in very positive ways. I am sure that the few selected quotations from the book listed below will enlighten you to one or two life lessons. Read and enjoy:
FOXES ON FIRE by Dr Noel Maturlu
“Emotional processing is the ability to change the meaning assigned to negative experiences. By finding positive meaning in what initially appears negative, individuals can transform their emotional response. This perspective shift is at the heart of cognitive-behaviour theory, which teaches that while adversity is inevitable, individuals can control how they think and feel about it (Beck, 1993; Rachman, 1980). “
“A strong support system – whether from family, friends, or a faith community – provides a crucial foundation for resilience. Having people to turn to during difficult times enhances emotional well-being and strengthens one’s ability to cope with challenges. Seeking and accepting help is not a sign of weakness but a testament to our interconnectedness as human beings.”
“Self compassion is the ability to treat oneself with the same kindness and understanding one would offer a dear friend. It involves generating soothing feelings of warmth and reassurance from within, tapping into an internal reserve of positive emotions. This emotional reserve is built through the loving experiences accumulated over time, enabling individuals to face challenges with greater resilience. —– Developing self-compassion includes practising self-kindness, embracing one’s imperfections, and maintaining a non-judgemental awareness of personal struggles. It requires individuals to replace self-criticism with encouragement and to acknowledge their hardships without allowing them to define their worth. A compassionate mindset fosters emotional resilience by promoting self-care and reducing feelings of inadequacy during difficult times.”
“For years, I sacrificed my peace to keep people happy. I lived for their approval, only to be left exhausted and empty. Then I realised something life-changing: I don’t need to be liked by everyone to be happy. My worth isn’t tied to human applause – it’s secured in God’s unshakable love.”
