By Dr Charles Leyman Kachitsa
It is unavoidable that people when they meet or relate with others, one of the first things is to make judgement about the other person. Contrary to popular thinking, when two people meet it doesn’t matter their power disparity, the powerful will judge the less powerful and the less powerful will also make judgement of the seemingly powerful person before them. It is always a two way process though as to who has a say expressing the judgement is a different matter. Most often meetings end with neither party saying openly about their judgement of the other.
How one present themselves always matters in other people forming a judgement about the person before them. There are times though when what a person is putting on or generally their appearance would be different to their true character. Such happens especially where costumes for a role are worn or generally uniform or where a place has a certain dress code that people have to adhere to. Some people are forced to put on appearances or cloths that does not truthfully represent their character.
Characters of a household can be easily judged by the type of rubbish they throw away. One has to scavenge where a household throws their waste to form a near true picture of the characters in that homestead. Some show their efficiency in throwing only those things that are really unwanted in little amounts. Others show wastefulness and therefore carelessness in throwing big chunks of waste of all types on a regular basis. And there are some characters who like rottenness, to see rottenness. Not all rottenness is bad though, just like we can deduce in appreciating wine and yeast.
The quotes this week are a continuation of extraction from a book that teaches the best ways of how knowledge can be harnessed. I am sure that the few selected quotations listed below from this book will enlighten you to one or two life lessons, read and enjoy:
A MIND FOR NUMBERS by Barbara Oakley, Ph.D.
“Remember, habits are powerful because they create neurological cravings. It helps to add a new reward if you want to overcome your previous cravings. Only once your brain starts expecting the reward will the important rewiring take place that will allow you to create new habits.”
“The key is, when the distraction arises, which it inevitably will, you want to train yourself to ignore it. One of the single most important pieces of advice I can give you on dealing with procrastination is to ignore distractions! Of course, setting yourself up so that distractions are minimal is also a good idea. ……..”
“Gifted people have their own set of difficulties. Sometimes highly gifted kids are bullied, so they learn to hide or suppress their giftness. This can be difficult to recover from. Smarter people also sometimes struggle because they can so easily imagine every complexity, good and bad. Extremely smart people are more likely than people of normal intelligence to procrastinate because it always worked when they were growing up, which means they are less likely to learn certain critical life skills early on.”
“You may think you really have to understand something in order to explain it. But observe what happens when you are talking to other people about what you are studying. You’ll be surprised to see how often understanding arises as a consequence of attempts to explain to others and yourself, rather than the explanation arising out of your previous understanding. This is why teachers often say that the first time they ever really understood the material was when they had to teach it.”